Time management is a major issue for new mothers, observes Maryann Troiani, Ph.D., coauthor of Spontaneous Optimism. "The first complaint I often hear from new moms is that they feel their time is bankrupt. They're always trying to beat the clock and just can't keep up with the demands of their new situation."

"Nobody can do any job 24 hours a day. All moms need some time off to do other things," adds Susan Heitler, Ph.D., author of The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage. "Operate from the inside out," Heitler suggests. "If you're depressed or stressed, none of the other pieces will work. It's just like when you're on an airplane-- if there's a shortage of oxygen, you're told to put the mask on yourself first because you can't help others if you're not breathing!"


How can new moms find a better balance?

• Make Love a Priority.
  Research shows that when couples enjoy loving, happy, optimistic lives together, they're more likely to raise emotionally stable children, says Maryann Troiani. Attention, appreciation, and affection toward your partner will enhance your baby's emotional environment. That doesn't mean you need to plan a complicated, romantic getaway; the solution can be as simple as turning off the TV and spending an hour with your mate chatting over a glass of wine or a cup of tea.
  
  
• Ease Back Into a Working Schedule.
  Instead of plunging into a full-time workday, try to build some balance into the transition. "Take one small step at a time," advises Troiani. "Women who put a lot of energy into their baby and then try to put just as much into work will just drain their batteries dry." If possible, ease back into work; try two or three days to start, or ask if you can work at home for part of the week.
  
  
• Make Time for You.
  For some women, feeling good about their body is important, so that may mean putting your baby in a sports/health club childcare for an hour a day. Other moms might prefer to read a book, play the piano, get together with a friend for lunch, or get involved in community service.
  
  Enlist Dad, your neighbor, a close friend or relative, but try to discover a way to have some personal time, even if it means spending your baby's naptime reading Sense & Sensibility instead of mopping the floor. "Your unique balance is what works," says Heitler, "and the test of a good balance is your emotional state."
  
  
• Organize Your Priorities.
  Make a list of ten important things you want to accomplish in a given day, advises Heitler, then ignore the last eight, focusing on the top two. Don't forget that the special time you spend with your blossoming baby counts as an accomplishment too.
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